14 Songs and Love

I forget where, when or from whom I heard this but I clearly remember the actual words:

“Love is just brushing your teeth together.”

And when you are young and dumb and full of so many misconceptions about the world, those words are confusing.

You think stupid thoughts when you’re young.

You think “love” is built around a gorgeous look or a wild breathless excitement or this impossible Walt Disney inspired fairy tale.

And if you stay stupid, lists get made about what “true love” will be…

The right income.

The right car.

The right breast size.

The right height.

The right voting record.

But love is not like that at all.

Life is just more complicated than the young and foolish ever realize.

Houses flood.

People test positive.

Careers stall.

Interests change.

Opinions shift.

But love?

That shit is golden.

It sits by the side of the hospital bed with you. It pulls the disgusting wads of refuse from your flooded house. It encourages you when you are in doubt. It calms you when you are anxious. It knows when to say “yes” and it can accept hearing “no” as well.

And, yes, true love is standing there next to you in front of the bathroom mirror and happily brushing it’s teeth with you because you are there and that is all that really matters.

So when does “love” come around?

Shit, you never know. Miracles like love occur in the strangest of places and at bizarre moments in time.

When it arrives, you’ll know it.

It’s that same great jazz riff that Joshua played to knock down the walls of Jericho.

But while you wait for the music to play…

Rock out to these sweet tunes.

Mix Tape Central:

Dreams Never End – New Order

Favorite Thing – The Replacements

You Only Live Once – The Strokes

Don’t Change – INXS

She Said, She Said — The Beatles

Dirty Water – The Standells

Close to Me – The Cure

Aberdeen – Cage the Elephant

King of the Rodeo – Kings of Leon

Lucky Man – Verve

The Last Time – The Rolling Stones

Girlfriend – Matthew Sweet

Hard to Live in the City – Albert Hammond Jr

There is a Light that Never Go Out – The Smiths

Coming and Going

The way they leave

Tells you


About who they are

This is true and it was said by one of the smartest people I know.

Did they ghost you and fade away? Was there a simple text declaring in a cowardly way that they were now breaking your heart? Was it in person? Were they crying before you realized what was happening? Was it clear that this was forever? Did they hate that they were going away? Are they promising to come back?

So if leaving tells you everything…

What about their arrival?

Do they ride in slinging fists full of cheer when you need it the most?

Are they suddenly hatching schemes to slay your demons for you?

Is the night suddenly fading with the sunrise they carry with them?

Are they a relentless hurricane pounding at your lonesome shores?

Can you feel they are picking up your pieces, making you whole again and ensuring you are stronger than ever?

Do you feel that you needed them before you ever knew they existed?

Are they the light on the door guiding you home through the storm?

Can you feel how they don’t want anything other than to see you rise up from your grave to take life by the throat?

Tell me…

What does their arrival tell you?